Update

I just wanted to let you all know that I am married to a mean, cold-hearted, heartlessly cruel man who cares not one bit that he is devastating my life.  He cares only about himself.

He is demanding that I leave and says that he will help me move my things.  I've asked him repeatedly to please help me financially which is something he DID promise the night he told me he wanted a divorce but now he is retracting that promise and says that he never promised me anything.  He says he will only help me move my things out and that I need to pick a date now.

He is trying to bully me and intimidate me.  I don't know how anyone can be so awful and live with themselves.

Barbie has been looking at homes in Georgia for me and says she's found one.  I'm just trying to figure out how to get there when I don't have the financial means to get there.  Jeff says he wonders what I have done with all my money. I've told him that I have been doing things like buying groceries and things to make this house function (not to mention making my car payment and my health insurance payment which is really high) but he discounts every thing that I've ever done and acts as if HE is the one who has done all that.  I've never known anyone so mean in my entire life.

So, that's an update.  I am nervous, stressed, sad, scared.  He doesn't care one bit.  All he cares about is himself.

Comments

[Kristi Smith]

I am really sorry you are going through this. I know this is a very difficult time for you. I am not even sure what to say. Just know we are thinking about you and hope you will soon find a way out of this crappy situation. Hugs to you.

[Janelle]

Sweetie, please tell me you have a lawyer! Please! You need somebody on your side to make him play nice. What a dick!

[donnapiranha]

I have not retained an attorney officially. I have an attorney friend who has been kind enough to give me some advice. He is in the wrong county though. I also talked to another one who didn't give me much hope because I signed a pre-nup.

The thing that I don't understand is that Jeff TOLD me he would give me some money to be able to get back on my feet and now he refuses and it doesn't bother him one BIT. I could never be so horrible.

When my ex-husband cheated on me, I helped him move, I gave him some furniture, I let him store some things in my house and we had an amicable split and he CHEATED on me. I haven't done ANYTHING to Jeff. Nothing!

[Lynette van Barrelo]

I'm sorry I don't have time for a longer, more comprehensive comment but I will say this.

Ass.

I will email you when my guests vacate... Hang in there, sweet. You have friends that love you. XX

[melinda]

Ugh and ick. I would definitely say that you should speak to a lawyer because unfortunately it does not look as though he is wanting to do this amicably. I second Lynette's Ass comment.
Try to stay strong...sorry about all this.

PS If you need a safe refuge you know where I am...just a couple hundred miles away :)

[debbie]

You do have friends that love you. This jerk will not ruin your life. We will be here for you.

I can't believe anyone can be this cruel. Unbelievable. Someday he will regret these actions I am sure.

[Pam]

I am so sorry Donna! I can't imagine how one person can change so completely in such a short time. I wish I had lots of money cause I'd send it to you to get you out of there fast! You don't need this mental abuse! All I can say is what goes around comes around and yep, he's a prick and an ass as mentioned earlier!

[scrappysue]

i'm so sorry you are going through this donna. why is it men choose to behave like complete ARSEHOLES when they can't make things work and make everyone else around them believe it's their fault?

sending you hugs :)

[Barbie]

Alcohol and sociopaths don't mix. Karma is a wonderful thing, however.

[Angie Tieman]

Donna, so sorry to hear this. :(
Wish I could be closer to help you more. Hang in there, knowing what goes around, comes around. ((((((hugs))))))

[Scott Biggs]

Just say the word and I will cause him serious pain. Better yet, just give me the coordinates for the barn and get out of dodge. I'll get a BUFF and rain hate down on that thing like you read about.

[donnapiranha]

Alriiiiggghhhhhttttt! Scott, our knight in shining armor to the rescue! Wheeeeee. My sister would like a front row seat. :-)

I did find a way to send him running before he has a chance to bully me. I pushed play on a little video I have of him going on and on about how much he loves me! Hee hee He was out of there and up the stairs faster than I've seen him move in a long time! I have it on my desktop ready to play again whenever necessary!

The girls who came here in October know what I'm talking about. I played it for them. It's a bit embarrassing for him being the "manly man" he thinks he is.

[Barbie]

Your firefighter b-i-l would like to help Scott!